This contributed post walks you through the steps to making decisions. So many great points including writing down the details and getting it out of your head.
There comes the point in all our lives when we are faced with two or more roads that we can go down. Making major life decisions can be overwhelming. People tend to be consumed by ‘what ifs’ while struggling to make sense of the choices they have in front of them. If you feel like this at the moment, these are a few ways in which you can clarify your thoughts and help you make the decision that is right for you.
Don’t Jump to the Worst-Case Scenario
As an example, you may be deciding whether or not to take a new job in another city. Your brain may be telling you that if you don’t take this opportunity, another one may never come along and you have missed your chance for happiness. But life doesn’t work like this. You make a lot of opportunities yourself. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t take the job, but you don’t want to let negative thinking scare you into accepting it for the wrong reasons.
Avoid Letting Others Pressure You into the Decision
Though it is not necessarily a bad thing to ask for advice, one thing that you do want to avoid is letting other people make the decision for you. You are the one that has to live with the consequences of your choice. For example, it may be a parent who is trying to push you down a certain career path because it is more ‘respectable’ or higher paying. But if it is not going to make you happy, you should take the time to think about what the decision means for you.
Think Through and Write Down the Details
Sometimes, it helps your mind to clarify a decision by breaking it down into smaller details. Say you are deciding whether or not to move home. You can start by writing down all the advantages and disadvantages involved in making this choice from an emotional point of view. Next, you can start looking into logistical details to learn more about moving companies etc. The simple act of writing these things down can help to unjumble all the thoughts that are racing around in your head.
Resist Fear of Missing Out…
FOMO may have recently been created as an acronym, but there is no doubt that it has been around for a long time. Social media has caused it to become more prominent as you can measure what you are currently doing against your peers. But you should always remember that this is a highlights reel and not real life.
…But Don’t Let Fear Drive You
Taking risks is something that a lot of people avoid doing because they are firmly in their comfort zone. However, this is where a lot of personal growth is done and the most exciting things happen. Even if the risk doesn’t pay off, it doesn’t mean that your life is over. You just need to pick yourself up and be ready to take the next one.